Meaning of: Are my feelings safe?

If i ask are my feelings safe? (which I only would ask if you contact me lol - not if I contacted you -  I get that's crazy lol) a "Yes" or "No" is all that's needed, so its easy for you and I. I put together this explanation of the question, so it's easy to understand.

I want to thank you for helping me to manage my happiness in this way, it means a lot to me. If I can do anything to help you with your happiness in terms of how we engage so we are in a safe place for our feelings, I would always listen.🩷🩷

I want you to know I respect you deeply and your want for respectful space and time - this is part of doing that well. Your wishes are really important to me.

By answering this question, you are just letting me know if I am at risk emotionally if I engage with you, because of the feelings I have for you.🩷

If a time comes when I feel that my feelings are not at risk if I communicate with you, I will stop asking this question if you contact me, it might be I become a whole lot better at all this, with the help of my psychologist - I hope so! :)

If I don't get a "yes" or "no" answer, I will assume it's "no".

A "no" answer is for where you are: (a) dating, or (b) with someone, or (c) not interested in catching up, in person, maybe after a brief few texts to say hi, ready to promptly make a plan to catch up that day or the following day, I will make time for sure so anytime works.

Answer "yes" if you: (a) haven't been dating in the last few days, (b) are not with someone and (c) are interested in catching up in person and ready to make a plan to catch up that day or the following day, I will make time for sure so anytime works.🩷

If we never get to a place we can see each other, for as long as my feelings are vulnerable, this seems best. If a situation arises where you think this is not the case, you could just explain in your communication to me, why. I think some flexibility is important, to account for anything I haven't or couldn't consider, conscious of everything that's involved.

The answer "yes" should be good with me, I would love to see you.🩷 This would only not be the case if I feel vulnerable in the moment, perhaps because I am going through stuff,  or am involved with someone in a way that makes it difficult, accepting you have made clear you want me to date and accepting like you, its an odd window in our story where dating is what you want, as I understand it without particular intention, as part of feeling the freedom you need, to do what's right for you, which I respect immensely.

"Yes" is telling me that my feelings are safe, in a time when you know in principle,  in your heart, that after we catch up, if I want to communicate in the days that follow, you will engage, answer the phone when I ring and it will be kind communication and of course I offer the same Obviously no one can be sure lol hence I just say in principle - but as long as you want that to be the case, that's great and all I ask.

Unless I get a 'yes', I will most likely, opt out of communicating further using very kind words, which you deserve:) I am sorry if this happens, it's just about feeling safe in the sense I won't be upset or worry I am invested emotionally in a place I am not wanted.

If I am persistently getting "no's" and you are trying to contact me when you know it's not safe for my feelings, I may just not reply.

Understand that in that moment, I am only being careful not to be put myself in a place I may be upset and I appreciate you always, in ways I feel deeply about, it's just about feeling good for me and importantly, being a version of myself that is turning up in the way you want me to -and you should know that of course, I wish things were different and I am working on being even better. This is only about my feelings for you, wanting to see you in a way we both feel great and making sure I bring nothing to you that you find frustrating or annoying, showing myself committed to supporting your wish for respectful time and space, respect being key. 🩷

This question ensures that you have all the respectful time and space you need - and if you ever want to contact me in a place you aren't dating or seeing someone, when you are wanting to see me - if that day ever comes, when you contact me and I ask this question and you say "yes" - we can catch up, which I would love.🩷 If you say "no" and I have healed, I am sure it will be okay too:):)

Thanks this means a lot to me, you have been great. 

I care about you so much, I couldn't wish more that someday, the answer is "yes", mindful that you are dating and of course, that means you are likely to find someone else, of course love happens for everyone, my responsibility to you and I, is to be kind in this moment and this is part of that, I could not wish more you find a direction that leads you to happiness.🩷